How it all started
“For the first time, I was experiencing sex like it should be: fun and enjoyable! “
Hi, I am Ronald, the founder of Bedminton, a sexual wellness brand for men focused on only Premature Ejaculation (atleast for now).
The Bedminton story is my personal experience of suffering from Premature Ejaculation (P.E), trying everything, giving up – then at last finding a solution that actually worked from someone I least expected.
I am a software developer, but after my bad experience with P.E I also unceremoniously declared a Jihad (struggle) to save other men from P.E so feel free to call me a P.E mujahideen.
From what I read, Premature Ejaculation affects up to 60% of men – which is a staggering statistic. And until four years ago, I was also a victim.
The scientific definition of Premature Ejaculation is any ejaculation below five minutes, but I think that definition is purely that; scientific. At five minutes all of us know that one is barely starting to even scratch the surface (pun intended).
I have my own definition of P.E which I think is more practical, and it is any sex below 15 minutes (counting off the first round – which is always quick).
The number 15 is not one I picked at random.
While sexual performance statistics are understandably hard to gather, reliable sources put 15 minutes as the average time it takes an average woman to reach orgasm, other factors remaining constant.
Therefore my definition of P.E simply says that a healthy average man should at least be able to make an average woman climax.
Not all women are average of course, but you get the point.
Back to my story of suffering from P.E, I was actually critically “ill”, if I can put it that way.
On my best days I averaged 5 minutes, while on normal days it was always over before it even started.
I was in this situation for many years, and not that I was doing nothing about it.
I used everything from medical drugs, supplements, numbing agents and herbals, to practicing all sorts of before-sex techniques that were said to stop P.E; but they all had one thing in common – they never worked, so I gave up.
The solution was to come from the most unlikely of people – my grandpa.
I was in the village for Christmas, and our home during Christmas can be mistaken for a small nursery and primary school.
Kids of all ages gather there, playing all sorts of games including climbing trees.
The topic of my Premature Ejaculation was not on the agenda, but one kid days earlier had fallen from a tree and got a dislocated elbow, and every morning and evening I watched curiously as Grandpa attended to the injured kid with only ghee and a mix of herbs.
I knew this kind of treatment worked because when I was around 15, we went “hunting” for monkeys and while jumping from one tree to another, hot on the heels of a monkey, I missed a branch and landed on the floor – fracturing my tibia bone. I was given the same treatment and it worked.
The more I watched Grandpa doing his herbal treatment, the more something told me that he could as well know about P.E, but the courage to reveal my secret to him was not immediately available and it took some days to gather enough of it.
I chose a moment when everyone else was outside the house and Grandpa was alone in his room.
Walking through the corridor, I stamped my feet harder than necessary to ensure my movement was noticed (sneaking up on an elder is not good, you never know).
The room had no door, so I simply swung the curtain out of the way and walked in.
I must have looked suspicious.
After the usual small talk about the weather and the like, I confided to him my problem.
His reaction was unbothered, as if what I had told him wasn’t serious.
Only mumbling an “okay”, he held onto his walking stick to support himself off the bed he was sitting on, then limped (sorry, walked) towards a drawer in the same room.
He pulled one cabinet, picked a small tin containing some powdered substance, got a pinch (the origin of Pinch) of the stuff, wrapped it in a piece of newspaper, and handed it to me with instructions to mix with Vaseline and apply at the relevant part.
Honestly, I took Grandpa’s pinch-sized remedy with a pinch of salt (pun intended).
I actually felt disappointed because I thought if anything was going to work it had to be something to eat or drink.
I expected Grandpa to give me like a ton or at least a heap of herbs to cook and drink, but I was wrong.
After use, the opportunity to experiment came after 6 days so I will never know if the pinch worked instantly or after a particular number of days, but it worked.
So much so that I had some explaining to do to relieve my partner’s suspicions I had used Viagra!
The first round was still short, nothing to write about.
The second round was longer than I had ever experienced but it is the third round that I want to talk about.
Not simply because it took almost forever, but because during it I was now in control of myself.
I could almost condition myself to cum or not to.
I could afford to go fast, hard, and everything in-between without feeling that something out of my control was about to happen.
For the first time, I was experiencing sex as it should be. Fun and enjoyable.
My worst fear was that the change I had gotten from Grandpa’s pinch would be a one-off and short-lived but four years later, I have never been the same again.
For full disclosure, I had a fluctuation after two years, but another “dose” of the pinch turned me back to normal.
From that first-hand experience Bedminton was founded. Our mission is turning men from zeroes to heroes in the bedroom, and through our product Pinch, I am happy to say we have already made that happen for hundreds of men and still counting.
Tip 2. Enlargement is not the answer.
Sex tips for men
Write off the first round.
Life is short and you know what else is? The first round! Even if it lasts 5 minutes or even seconds. No worries, that’s all normal.
Relax, and let her see you come back better and longer during the second round and beyond. Write off the first round as a warm-up.
Enlargement is not the answer.
The first thing to blame for most men whose sexual performance is underwhelming is size. Penis size! And naturally, the next thing to think about is enlargement.
But as part of this business, we’ve seen a lot of P’s and we would rate 99% of them as okay in terms of size. More likely than not your penis falls within the 99%. What is important is being able to sustain an erection that is hard enough for long enough, and with this you don’t need to worry about size. Enlargement is not the answer.